How psychotherapy helps us understand sexual relationships : insights from the consulting room /
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| Language: | English |
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Abingdon, Oxon ; New York, NY :
Routledge,
2020.
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Table of Contents:
- Cover
- Half Title
- Title
- Copyright
- Dedication
- Contents
- Preface
- 1 It all begins in childhood
- Some reflections on my childhood anxieties about sex
- What Freud and Kinsey told us about childhood sexuality
- My world as a teenage girl becomes more sexually confusing
- Women struggle to reclaim their sexuality
- 2 Big changes, entrenched attitudes
- The sexologists discovered the truth: Why did we forget?
- At last women are talking about sex, at least to each other
- Why do women fake it?
- Is the relationship more important for women?
- Men talk about their sexual anxiety
- The genders don't fit: Is this a design fault or a trick of evolution?
- Where do we go from here?
- 3 What have parents got to do with our sexual relationships?
- On love, sexual rivalry and Oedipus
- The boy's story
- Why was Jeremy afraid of losing his virginity?
- What about the girls?
- Girls, sexual awakening and disturbing thoughts about fathers
- Connie and her flirtatious father
- Fantasies or memories of abuse? An important distinction
- 4 Love and attachment and why they matter
- The origins of attachment theory
- Attachment theory and sexual relationships
- Kieran's terror of being abandoned
- Adele, the bad email and the lump of coal
- Mattie's rage: A defence against intimacy
- 5 On women, their fathers and forbidden love
- The allure of unavailable objects of desire
- Ellie and the Women Who Lose Themselves in Love group
- 6 Affectionate love and lasting sexual desire: Can we have both?
- Monogamy: If prairie voles can do it, why can't we?
- Douglas's very disturbing infatuation
- Dulcie and the allure of the rejecting object of desire
- Annie's yearning for 'proper sex'
- 7 On pornography, prostitutes and sex addiction
- Why are some men attracted to sexually debased women?.
- Why do some people become addicted to sex?
- Lars's addiction to pornography and prostitutes
- 8 On women's misogyny and self-hatred
- Self-hatred and the angel in the house
- Controlling mothers and sadomasochistic desires
- What compelled Marie to pick up men who disgusted her?
- On domination, submission and sadomasochism
- How Vivienne found herself through bondage
- 9 On passion, envy, rage and hate
- What Melanie Klein told us about love and hate
- My imaginary Melanie Klein exhibition
- Kleinian portraits of two men in my life
- Why some women return to their abuser
- A power struggle and the roots of misogyny
- Afterword
- Acknowledgements
- References
- Index.